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REPORT FROM DISCUSSION ABOUT SEXUAL VIOLENCE AT KROS FEST
22.8.2009

We were asked about making some discussion about sexual violence in one small punk festival near Sedlecany (Czech Rep.). When we discussed this offer we though that is really important to bring this topic to our communities and it doesn’t matter if it is punk, crust, hardcore or whatever community. Sexual violence is around us, even everywhere. And it is important to speak about, breaking silence about and destroy all the myths and taboos.

Finally the discussion took over 3 hours and at beginning was over 20 persons, what was more than we expect, through all the time was active on discussion around 14 persons. Really open to discuss and to explore new views and ideas, even if theirs ideas was really different. It was obvious that for most of the persons was this topic something new, especially connection with anarcho-feminism. We were really glad and surprised that through all the time only one person tried to insulted us and after it we got positive feedbacks.

After discussion we were satisfied with way we choose, but over this we also saw some deficiencies. We prepared this type of discussion for a first time, and we want to make it more interactive. So we choose to combine speech with some activities. We worked as a team of three persons and we divide each topics between us. After this discussion we also saw some shortcomings. First of all was organization of time and poor directing of discussion. And also after it, we thought that main part of discussion can be based on activity with myths & facts, caused through this activity is possible open almost all issues. Although some methodical difficulties we have good feeling from the interaction with participants who were very friendly and the discussion evaluate like successful especially with thanks to them.


1.INTRODUCTION – who we are, what we want, from which point of view we see this topic, why we doing this discussion

2.CLEAR UP WORDS WHAT WE USE AND MAIN IDEAS – victim x survivor,
pressure, abusing x exploitation, rape like question of power x rape like a sexual act,
what is sexual violence, sexual harassment,

3. activity: MYTHS & FACTS – this activity is based on small papers with different myths and facts about sexual violence, everyone get one paper and his or her part is to think about and try to decide if it is myth or fact, after it always one person read the information and rest of us show thumb up (i agree) or down (i disagree). After this voting is place for questions and discuss about opinions.

4.SOCIAL CONTEXT OF RAPE , SEXUAL VIOLENCE AND SUBCULTURES
- consequences of sexual violence, gender issue, sex.violence in punk subculture

5.CONSENT - what is a consent

6.SUPPORT OF SURVIVORS – basic advice how to act if i am survivor or supporter

7.SELF-DEFENSE – basic information about self-defense

8.activity: STORIES – this activity is based on few stories, which happened to some persons. People working in groups and the main aim is to discuss and think if it is sexual violence or not and what exactly by their opinion happened. Main aim of this activity is to trying explore everyone’s statements and boundaries about sexual interaction and discuss it.

(because of time, we do not did this activity)

Support is very important to someone that survived rape


When I talk about support I have to think about my personal experiences and how other people supported me or not.
Maybe two years a go I wrote in my zin Urbesck that I was raped and described how I felt about everything that happened and everything I felt about it in that time. I didn't have any expectations from people, actually I thought that nobody will comment it and actually I was afraid that I will just get more aware how people are ignorant to some subjects and realities around us and that was making me somehow numb. But some people did react. For me it wasn't important that people react because it was about me but because it was about somebody, anybody that was raped and for me it was important to put the subject of sexual violence in open and try to make conversation about it.
Of course I appreciate that few people said something but also their reactions and approach towards me made me very numb again and even more by time and I really don't think they would admit that.
Approaches of some people were just political correctness and showing how they dare to talk about it even I talked more and they were just showing that obviously they are not capable to communicate about rape or with person that was raped. It's very important that people that are already traumatized don't become traumatized even more by reactions of some people that think they did right thing.
Personally it's never easy to talk about these things because we are thought to hide behind shame towards sexuality and talks about sex and especially sexual violence.
But being mature about some subject is more important and taking responsibility for what we say or do because some of our reactions could trigger person that was raped. Actually reactions of some people towards me were even more triggering and I can be sure that they were aware of that but as one person said to me: “fuck, im embarrassed” obviously, yes everybody has right to be embarrassed, of course but it just depend to who we say that and why.
If you are not ready to talk about some subjects, like sexual violence ,it's important that you think before contacting person that was raped because that person needs more strength to talk about it then you do so if you come with attitude that you are embarrassed that person could feel weaker and even more ashamed for being raped. That's how I felt in a way.
People that were raped need our strength and support and not us showing that we are ashamed and embarrassed to talk about it. That's very triggering and weakening so before we do anything we should be clear with ourselves what we feel and why.
Personally, when I had talks about sexual violence with some of my friends I was trying to be stronger as I can and put everything in open and not making my self as victim saying to that person that i'm embarrassed. It was my responsibility to be there for that person and help her/him to go through the conversation and be strong for that person.
We should take more responsibility for other people, no meter if they are our friends or not.
Conversation about sexual violence can't and shouldn't go through mail just because that's easier for us as supporters of person that was raped. That is escape and avoiding the problem and person that was raped can take that as avoiding and feel more shame and feel weird and different because that talk is not natural but something strange and what happened to her or him is something she or he should hide.
I want to be more responsible and more mature about world around me and create as much as possible communication about rape.

Anarhofeministički fest Love Kills 2008, Timişoara, Romania

Nije se održao na istom mjestu kao i 2007 god.
Ono mjesto je stvarno bilo veliko i idealno, imali smo šatore i bilo je ljeto. Sad je bilo zima, prostor je bio mali, ali svi/e kažu da je bilo super pa ko sam ja da uspoređujem. Atmosfera je bila ugodna.Program je tekao po rasporedu i svi/e prisutni/e su nekako uvijek i sudjelovali/e jer smo svi/e stalno boravili/e u istoj prostoriji. Bilo je predavanje o depilaciji koje je bilo osvježenje. Osjećala se neka nelagoda u zraku, i diskusije skoro nije ni bilo, ali važno da se povukao globalni razgovor o toj temi.Bila je i radionica bojanja kose. Tu su se skoro svi farbali , bar neki pramen; plavo, zeleno itd.

Radionica samoobrane za žene se u zadnji tren totalno promijenila. Trebale smo je napravit djevojka iz berlina i ja , ali budući da je umor napravio svoje, četiri nas iz Berna, Berlina, St Etienna i Zagreba održale smo kratku prezentaciju o samoobrani koju smo dogovorile baš pred održavanje. To mi je baš bilo super.
Bila sam stvarno živčana, ali mislim da sam rekla sve što sam htjela. Pričale smo o svojim iskustvima. Moja tema je bila korištenje glasa kao oružja od napada.
Diskusija je bila jako korisna i motivirajuća.
Ova radionica bila je puno bolja od one druge koju sam napravila o latentnoj prostituciji ili bolje rečeno o eksploataciji seksualnosti. Nakon te diskusije sam bila stvarno razočarana u sebe i iscrpljena. Neću raditi to predavanje u skoro vrijeme.
Jednostavno nema efekta niti smisla kao što su imale neke druge koje sam radila.
Radionica preobražaja logoa je bila ok. Uglavnom, radilo se o tome da se stvari: majice, privjeske, čaše koje su imale logoe coca cole, paula smitha, drugih kreatora itd. trebalo preobraziti i napraviti alternativu tim markama. A pomagala su bile igle, boje, konac, škare itd.
Bilo je zanimljivih stvari.
Bila je i queer radionica gdje se raspravljalo o tome kako je biti homoseksualac i transvestit u temišvaru te su se dečki oblačili u „žensku“odjeću i djevojke u „mušku“, ali zaključak je bio da se ipak tako ne izađe na ulicu.
U subotu su se održale još radionice sigurnog slanja
e-maila i izrade šablona. Rares je imao predavanje koje se zvalo Anarhofeminizam- ne samo ženska borba. Svi su dečki došli na to predavanje. Bila je ok diskusija, ali su opet djevojke pričale više i svi/e smo se složili/e da anarhofeminizam ne može biti odvojen od anarhizma općenito niti anarhizam od anarhofeminizma te da bi se pitanjem seksizma trebali baviti svi spolovi jer bez oslobođenja žena nema niti oslobođenja niti emancipacije muškaraca i obrnuto. Represija žena u društvu tiče se i muškaraca jer su i oni sami time potlačeni. Patrijarhat nanosi pravila i muškarcima, a ne samo ženama.
Bilo je i predavanje o pravoslavnoj crkvi u rumunjskoj.
U sklopu toga je bila i izložba.
Eto nadam se da nisam zaboravila nešto. Drago mi je da sam bila i ove godine i nadam se da ću i slijedeće…………



Queer feminist fest u Beču

Došla sam u petak na seks party koji se održao u klubu Element u kojima su prostorije za recimo intimno druženje.
Budući da nikad nisam bila na takvom partiju zanimalo me uopće kako to izgleda, imala sam čak i tremu i nelagodu, ali bilo je sasvim ok druženje. Samo je ženama bio dozvoljen upad i transrodnim osobama i homoseksualcima. Naime, mnogim je muškarcima zabavno gledati žene i to bi potpuno odstupalo od onoga što je seks parti trebao predstavljati:ugodno druženje gdje se žene, lezbijke il koje to nisu mogu opustiti , družiti i voditi ljubav ili jednostavno prakticirati seks. Moglo se i gledati kroz prozore koji su inače naime tome i namjenjeni, ali kad sam ja bila sve je bilo zamračeno.
Jedna djevojka je izvela striptiz.Nisam ga doživjela naravno na onaj način na koji bi možda doživjela striptiz u klasičnim barovima za striptiz, ali ipak sam se osjećala nelagodno, a djevojka iz italije s kojom sam bila je rekla da njoj to nije ok.
Imala je svoje razloge. Ali nakon nekog vremena i ja sam isto htjela napraviti striptiz i osjećala sam se sasvim ok i neugroženo. I bez obzira što su neke od tih žena sigurno gledale tu djevojku isto sa seksualnog gledišta ipak je drukčije jer je to bila njena volja i izbor iz čiste zabave i mogućnost za neki napad je bio isključen i to je ono što je meni bilo primamljivo. Potpuna sigurna situacija s hrpom ljudi gdje sam mogla biti potpuno gola i znam da mi se ništa neće dogoditi. Sutradan sam održala predavanje. Bilo je isto jako čudno i razočaravajuće, neki ljudi su me i napadali i možda i očekivali odgovore koje ja ne bi niti trebala dati, ali to je opet druga priča.
Predavanja su se održavala posvuda u Beču što je ponekad oduzimalo mnogo vremena.
Bila sam na predavanju o anarhofemizmu koje je bilo o svemu samo ne o anarhofeminizmu, ali razvila se ideja i diskusija o etiketiranju i o tome kako je i zašto nekome bitno nazivati se anarhofeministicom/om.
Održalo se u free shopu.
Radionicu d.y.i vibratora i dildoa sam propustila jer je bila u isto vrijeme kad i moje predavanje, ali imam podatke i pokazale su mi kako da to napravim pa sam trenutno u pokušajima da sama napravim svoj vibrator i dildo.
Koncert je bio u ekh. Bila sam totalno umorna i kad sam došla sjedila sam bar dva sata i prežvakala juhu, ali sam se osjećala stvarno ugodno u društvu svih tih ljudi jednostavno ne radeći ništa. Nisam nikad dosada prodala toliko zinova kao tad. Totalno osvježenje.
Sutradan je bio završni dan opraštanja uz ručak i filmove. Na vlak smo trčale i skoro sam zakasnila. Hvala puno djevojkama iz beča koje su trčale ispred mene da zaustave vlak koji je stvarno čekao na mene dok sam se vukla s teškom torbom
Super iskustvo i stvarno mi je drago da sam otišla.

recept za šparoge
Naberete šparoge i stavite ih u ulje s lukom ili bez na dinstanje. Stavite vode i još se dinsta.
U posudi izmiješate brašno s vodom kao smjesu za veganske palačinke pa sipate u tavu i miješate.
Poželjno je što gušće. Ima bolji okus.
Mene podsjeća poprilično na kajganu koju sam jela kao mala. Onu s jajima.
Ne zaboravite sol. I začine koje god.
Eksperimentirajte!!
Ovih dana beru se šparoge. Obožavam to raditi. Lunjaš po šikari, a ako uspiješ provlačiš se među drvećem u najgušće grmlje. I na kraju vidiš svoj plijen.
Obično ih ljudi jedu s jajima, a ako si vegan/ka onda s tofuom, kariem i s čim god.
Dakle ako se uputite u ta područja i razmišljate što ćete jesti evo recepta za šparoge - veganski recept.

Šparoge- koliko hoćeš
Tofu,
Mladi luk ( ono zeleno je bolje),
Ulje (ja koristim obično jer maslinovo ne volim i totalno mijenja okus),
Kari (njega stavim malu tonu),
I koje god začine hoćete; divlji origano koji vam vjerojatno raste negdje u vrtu ako živite na moru, mi ga našle i izgleda ko' menta,
Mažuran koji se stavlja i na pizzu.
Čubar- okus ko origano recimo
Inače šparoge su meni super i na pizzi ili u sosu od rajčice, ali isto su mi divlje bolje.
Čubar- okus ko origano recimo
Sve su to mediteranske biljke i lako uspijevaju ako ih posadite u posude.
Sve to nasjeckate,tofu izgnječite s vilicom npr.
Na ulje stavite prvo šparoge da se izdinstaju. Zatim luk pa tofu. Pa kari i ostale začine. Ne zaboravite sol.
Slatku verziju s šparogama ne znam pa ako ste to ikad radili/e javiteJ